Tuesday, 3 June 2014

Step 5: Projective Being

We should see ourselves as something impressive and made of light, just like a movie: It is the images we share with others that make them like or dislike us, that make them have a good or a bad experience when they are in contact with us.

We would like to, first of all, be a movie that inspires the right feelings in others, the right reactions, and the right actions.

We should then worry about finding out who exactly we are, that is, about knowing who we are, about being on top, in control, of our persona.

Once we are in control, our persona can finally be what we want it to be: we can change it, we can shape it, and we can do whatever we like with it.

Most of the trouble in human kind comes from nonassertiveness (Definition and Test Yourself): We want one thing, but we take another in place, we think one thing, but we say another, and so on so forth.

To mention one example,  we have the case with Mario Perozzo, which we have presented in A New Model For The Human Psyche: He told his instructor that he could not run anymore, but he kept on running because that is what the instructor told him to do.

Part of being nonassertive is having moments of shared ego (see the last link) with others, just like the fatal moments of Mario Perozzo.

We treat shared ego on levels two and six of The Empire.

What we project should be our best effort to match the world of the true image, which is the world where things are the way they should be, basically, with the world of the actual image. 

In the world of the true image, which we try to see from our cocoon, we see ourselves in our purest form: We are who we would like to be.

We are winning in this world if we succeed in matching the reactions we would expect to get from others in the world of the true image with the reactions we get in our actual world.

In the world of the true image, we obviously see everything with our eyes, and with our eyes only, what then gives us what we would like to see happening as a consequence of being who we would like to be or who we think we are.

LRP would say I love you more than anyone else on earth, I am your only friend several times to her little sister.

In her cocoon, she would see herself full of love for her sister.

In reality, her little sister hated her with all her forces and saw in her someone who would always injure her in the most coward way as possible whenever there were opportunity.

Freud would probably say that LRP had a slip of the tongue when she said I am your only friend.


The only person who can judge that is the little sister.

The simple fact that she is imposing her judgement to the sister, and passing that to her as if it were a universal opinion, means that she does not even want to know who the little sister is in reality: She wants the little sister to be who she wants her to be, to feel what she is telling her to feel, and etc.

With the help of The Empire, LRP could have seen herself from a distance, in her world of the perfect image, and she would then understand that she is not in touch with reality when she says that: Her words, by no means, point at true objects. 

LRP has two choices at least: Either she rejects relating for real to that sister and stops forcing herself to a relationship that has been artificially created by human society by means of laws and others or she embraces her nonassertiveness, learns from all, and projects what she sees in the world of the true image into the actual world.

As she changes paradigms and behavior, it is possible that her sister finally agrees with her assertion, and she then will find it much easier to cope not only with herself, but with others as well.

Projective Being is therefore about harmony between the inner and the outer energies. If they both harmonize, then the strength of the projection is immense, perhaps finally creating the expected impact on others.




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