Tuesday, 22 July 2014

Dysfunctional Families

Psychologists decided to call this way the families where people do not do what they should. Sometimes the father rapes the kids, for instance, or the mother is left on her own with the kids for long time for some reason, like say the father is not very well in terms of mental health (Counselling and DysfunctionalDefinition).

The consequences for the individual of having a dysfunctional family are numerous and serious. One of them is inadequate social patterns: They may ask for people to give more than the normal, they may refrain from having social contact with others, they may tend to have relationships in which they dominate the other somehow, and etc.

The most serious consequence of them all seems to be to the side of the priorities: The individual who comes from a dysfunctional family seems to have difficulties in either seeing the other as they are or supporting them properly.

An interesting case is that of the individual who starts thinking that they have to be stable with the service providers and those who they serve professionally, but not with those who live with them.

Whilst certain professions already carry in themselves a certain degree of allowance for instability, such as acting and teaching, the flatmates will obviously resent from having an ever-changing individual in terms of moods and treatment.

In one of the most serious cases of inversion of an individual originating in a dysfunctional family observed by us, the only kid who lived with the mother was left without a word from her for about a week for having answered some question about the mother's personal life to a relative. She still had to apologize for having simply answered the question of the mother’s sister, that is, for having told the sister of her mother something about her mother’s life upon questioning, before getting her own and only mother to speak to her again. 

In compensation, the hairdresser, the manicure, and the client of the mother never experienced any change in her behavior towards them and if they ever disclosed something about her personal life to her sister, she would at most say something.

This daughter was the only friend this mother had in life almost all the time since she was born and she saved her from many unbelievable situations. The hairdresser, the manicure, and the client have never done anything similar for the mother.

They also never lived with her.

This mother suffered from bad inversion because her family was highly dysfunctional: It was a family in which nobody could count on the father, for instance. The father would almost always be absent.

She had to take care of her own mother when she tried to start life somewhere else because the mother went after her and she ended up acquiring tuberculosis for not eating enough: She worried about the younger sister, who the mother brought with her to where she started to live, and privileged her in terms of feeding.

She herself suffered from inversion of roles, therefore: Instead of having the mother taking care of her and supporting her in her attempts to achieve, she had to literally carry the mother and the young sister instead.

The inversion of roles and priorities, which ultimately leads to instability at home, is a modern disease.

One could say that it is just a copy of the global inversion of roles and priorities: The world talks a lot about human rights and publishes quite a lot about the horrors of human rights violations, but the truth is that even in first world countries like Australia human rights violations are a trivial thing. Instead of them being a priority for all democratic governments, which seem to condemn them so ferociously in their laws and statements, they are actually the last thing they will ever address in practice.

In fact, several cases of extremely serious violation of human rights have been triggered or started by public employees of countries like Australia and Brazil.

A democratic nation is supposed to act like a parent towards its nationals when they go overseas: They are supposed to guarantee that its nationals are well served and treated with respect and dignity.

It must also give priority in terms of service provision to its good nationals, that is, to people who achieve highest overseas or have a beautiful history in their records, say good students, good employees, and etc.

In practice, however, whilst Australia goes after the drug smuggler Schapelle Corby (Schapelle) in Indonesia as a nation, worrying to maximum degree about her rights and ways to help her, they do not give enough attention to the death of Heath Ledger, who was advertising Australia so well through his acting skills in Batman.

Heath Ledger could easily have been assassinated: Perhaps he has never intended to have an overdose. He could have been inserted a bug of some sort in his ear, for instance, and have been brainwashed at night with doing that to himself. He could have been set up as well, so that there is a chance that he actually did not die like that.

Australia did not worry about investigating the details of his death, for instance (Heath, death), and never even thought of the possibility, as for all we hear and see, of him not having died accidentally because of his own negligence.

Australia has the wrong priorities and suffers from serious inversion then, and this is a First World nation.

The so few cases of human rights denouncements (they accumulate by the high numbers everywhere) that ever get addressed and solved, in which the victims are saved, take plenty of years to be solved and are only addressed (normally) because the press publishes something about them.

When we talk about money being stolen, Brazil goes after the person as a nation overseas and all gets published in detail, that is, first they investigate and arrest, then they publish. See, for instance, the case of Jorgina Freitas (Jorgina de Freitas).

Well, that is just about money, and money gets stolen from the Brazilian nation every day in large amounts, with a certain local politician, called Paulo Maluf (Paulo Maluf), even having as a slogan I steal but I do for ages.

Notice that Jorgina is a woman. She was captured overseas by the Brazilian government, all has been published everywhere, and this happened less than ten years from the dates of the crimes. Maluf spent his entire life committing this sort of crime and only recently (Paulo Maluf, arrested) has been arrested (several decades).

That is clear evidence on violation of human rights: Even when it comes to crimes that the Brazilian nation deems important in practice, the woman gets infinitely worse than the man.

Human rights however is about human life, and sometimes priceless human life, say the life of top researchers, revelations, young ones.

Brazil definitely suffers from high levels of inversion.

More important than noticing and admitting all, and that is the first step to heal ourselves from that, is fixing ourselves.

Our home is obviously our most important asset in life, so that it does matter quite a lot.

Most individuals who have dysfunctional families are not used to variety of situations, since a dysfunctional family always repeats: It is the alcoholic uncle who is drunk again and bothers everyone, the promiscuous sister who makes scandals by the door ashaming everyone, the aunt who keeps on eating in a compulsive manner and making everyone feel disgusted about all she does, say showing herself whilst in the toilet to everyone that comes by in detail (vagina, anus, and even how she folds the toilet paper), and etc.

Dysfunctional families have members who are absolutely disgusting to others and are incredibly selfish therefore in all they do, starting with their behavior and invasion of the personal space of the other.

The individual who is mentally normal has horror of their dysfunctional family and does whatever they can to get rid of them as soon as possible.

The problem with that is that everyone has a family and that will hurt them during their entire lives, since they will always be short of a support line that everyone else has got.

The other problem with that is that they will think that investing at home, in whomever is with them, is worthless and harmful, since those relatives of theirs, who shared a roof with them for so long, returned nothing apart from injury either in the overall or in each contact.

To grow up, that is, to free themselves from such a heinous past and so hurtful memories, which are all associated with the home environment, they have to literally play with life.

The Empire treats that with computer simulations and scripts.

It is necessary to show plenty of standpoints to these individuals, since what they do not have is variety and flexibility: They are used to get always the same behaviors and, because of that, they are used to give always the same responses.

They need to put themselves in the shoes of people who are normal in those regards, that is, not people who come from dysfunctional families as well.

They must avoid, at any expense, relating to people who have dysfunctional families in their intimacy, since that can only aggravate their problems and make them have an unstable home.

The Empire uses material written by the emperors to try to heal them (Kamikaze): The emperors prepare a series of case scenarios and think about how they feel in each situation sincerely. They then write down all their emotions and the possible causes of those. They also write what they expect people to do to help and what would injure instead of help.

The individual who is under training under The Empire’s system will first try to guess all the lines and then will compare their guesses with the actual writing. They will do that based on what they know about the Emperor from observing them and also based on what is written on the system about their lives in general.

The treatment has four stages: guesses and comparison, action and impact, writing own lines, and actions of others plus impact.

It is called The Game Of Life.




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